Since I made the decision to take a break at home for a week before start a new job (again?!?!). I have learned something about “Patience”
Once I uses the dictionary Dict Box from Evolly App (the most favorite dictionary application that I’ve ever paid) to translate the word “Patience”… look what I found…
Good-natured tolerance of delay or incompetence…
You know, I understand those meaning completely. But the point is I don’t like the feeling when I have to wait for something.
Because I hate the feeling that my anxiety always appears when I have to wait. I could not control that. Even I distracted myself from something else like reading a book, watching telly. It worked sometimes. But all anxiety still there.. somewhere in my head.
It’s normal, isn’t it? But it always cost my energy to control and calm all my anxiety I got at that moment.
So here I’d like to share how I handle my anxiety. Only in my way. I’m not sure it will work for you or not, but yeah.. it works for me..
Do nothing for a moment
When I feel or aware that my anxiety is going after me. The first thing I mostly do is.. NOTHING. Yes, just do nothing. I mostly sit on the sofa or lay down in bed and stay still there for a moment. And I do nothing even my brain is running or spinning. I let my brain runs and spins as it wants. This phase mostly takes for ten or a half an hour for me.
Listen to the favorite music.
This always works for me. Listening to the music always help when I have all emotional feelings. Anxiety too. But just have to be careful about the genre of the music. For the anxiety, I’d like to go to YouTube and search with “music to release anxiety”. Then the list will be showed. And select one clip, close my eyes, release all intense of my body and just listen. I mostly take for an hour or more because I always look for MY TYPE of the music I really want to listen and it always depends on my feeling at that moment. That’s why it takes more time.
Hot shower or bathtub
It helps! YES. Hot shower/bathtub while listening to the favorite music… always nice solution to break my own thought of anxiety, worries, overthinking, etc. If I want to feel better sooner, I would read a book while I was in the bathtub.
Read a book to pause the anxiety
While I was listening to the music and was in the bathtub, I was usually reading a book as well. Any kind of book I like. I meant.. any. But at that moment I would read the book about how to deal/cope with worrying, such as “Stop thinking, start living” by Richard Carlson. (I know it looks damaged. I read it too often.. so..)
Go to sleep
Yes, the best way to handle my anxiety.. I would go to sleep when I can. But sometimes when my brain is not shutting down and still thinking whatever… I could not sleep anyway.
But… Nowadays, I use the Self hypnosis application. It could help me to sleep sooner when I really needed. Sometimes (actually a lot of times) we cannot control things. But.. we have to accept that first, that we cannot control things. We have to accept and admit and let things go. We cannot accept immediately when thing happens, but time and practicing would help.
I will set myself to sleep (if I could) And use the self hypnosis to help me sleep easier. To be honest, I never be able to end any session. Always fell asleep before. Even it has not finished, at least it helps me to sleep.
Talk to someone you trust for 100%.. YES Only 100%..
Once I talked/shared my worries or anxiety, even I did not have any answer yet.. But I always feel relief, relax and calm, so I can have the fresh brain to re-think about what I do worries. And it solved..
But I have to find someone who I can trust them for 100%.
This is the hardest thing for me. Why? Because I have a trust issue. I rarely trust someone for 100%. I can count those people in my life.
Here are the some characteristic(s) of someone I trust…
- I need someone who knows how to respect other people.
- I need someone who would not judge me.
- I need someone who would not tell or announce my things to anyone.
- I need someone who can share their opinion without any bias.
- I need someone who does not have any relevant or can take advantage from the thing I share.
See? It’s the hardest to find someone who has what I mentioned.
Normally I talk to my boyfriend, my (best) friend(s). But sometimes they know me well, sometimes they will put their judgement. So they will agreed everything I said because they don’t want to make me feel bad. So sometimes I choose to talk with my counselor, because she has all characteristics that I mentioned before and since I have met her for a few years, always no judgement me by her. So sometimes if you want to talk to someone you really trust. Talking to the counselor is another very good option.
So here are the ways that I would use to handle my anxiety. And I know you have another way to handle as well, right? So please share your ways with me. I’m looking forward to read your idea from you.
This post was drafted somewhere in October 2018, but I just posted!